If you are a woman who feels best when you are in your feminine energy, dating can be overwhelming. In a perfect heavenly world, a woman would usually meet the love of her life effortlessly, without having to force herself to be out there on many dates. In paradise, the man would have to find the woman, his missing rib, without her having to do so much. But the modern dating world is not so fairytale-ish. Women have to join dating apps, go on countless dates, face rejection sometimes or experience some not-so-good dates, before they meet their person.

There is, of course, an upside to this, too. Instead of being married off to some man that a woman’s parents choose for her, she has the freedom to choose as she pleases. She has options and can actually afford to raise her standards. So, how can a woman take advantage of this freedom while also making sure she preserves her feminine energy, her tenderness, as she participates in the modern dating world? How can you date without having to sacrifice your feminine energy?

♡Know Your Core Values and Desires

You have to become clear about your intentions of stepping into the dating world. Do you have intentions of marriage, or do you want to just stay open to ‘the one’, even though there’s no rush? You also have to become clear about what matters to you in a man (or a woman, of course). You could make a list of core values that are important to you and what type of dynamic you want to experience with the person you are searching for. Do you want to be taken care of and melt into your feminine essence even more, or do you care about going on adventures together, or both? What type of man are you craving? What do you want to feel in his presence? Safe? Adored? Sensual? What type of character do you want him to have?

It helps when a woman gets clear. When a woman knows what she wants and how she wants to feel with her dream man, it becomes easier for her to say ‘no’ to anyone else. This saves time and energy and helps a woman date with clarity, instead of confusion.

So, write about it. Make a list. Keep it close to you to remind yourself what matters. If you want to go deeper, ‘Attract Divine Union’ ebook might be just the thing for you. It will take you through the specific steps to take to attract ‘the one’, in the simplest and exciting way.

♡Keep It Simple

Keep the first few dates simple. Unless you have the energy for it or unless you are particularly excited about this one man, the first date should be something that fits right into your daily life. A coffee date, or a walk, or just an evening watching the sunset, eating ice cream. The first date is to see if you have some chemistry with this person and if you can hold a good conversation with them. It’s to feel out each other’s energy. So, keep it simple. It doesn’t have to be a fancy dinner date where you have to spend hours getting ready and putting lots of effort in. This is because, if you do this for every first date you go on with a stranger, you are going to exhaust yourself.

Feminine energy is about ease and flow. It’s about ‘be’ing rather than ‘do’ing. So, when a woman does the most on first dates, she is going to find herself disconnected from her feminine essence. Feminine energy is playful and lighthearted, so the first couple of dates should feel natural and not so serious. A first date is not about going out of your way to please someone else. It’s about seeing if you even like this person’s energy.

♡Observe More and Stay Detached

You will meet different types of men trying to impress you, love-bomb you, and be so sweet and generous, planning all the dates and paying for all of them, too. Some of these actions will be genuine and might even be because he’s ‘the one’ for you. Some of these actions will only be temporary because they only want to chase you. Therefore, stay observant and detached until you truly feel safe and cherished in a connection.

Receive the goodness, the compliments and the gifts, but know that you are under no obligation to rush into anything you are not ready for. If he is ‘the one’, he will be patient. Instead of jumping to conclusions as to why someone might be your soulmate or your future husband, allow your intuition to come through when you have gathered enough data. Stay detached until you start to realize that they’re consistent. Give it some time to see if actions match words. You are safe to take it as slowly as you want.

♡Protect Your Boundaries

A woman who dates in the modern world must have a set of boundaries that work to protect her peace and self-respect. She should have a general idea of what type of energy she wants to say ‘yes’ to and what type of behaviour feels like a ‘no’. And a woman must most definitely be comfortable with expressing her preferences without allowing herself to be passively led.

Feminine energy is not passivity. Feminine energy isn’t being easygoing. While feminine energy is being able to flow and adapt, it’s also having the instinct to protect one’s safety and softness. It’s about only saying ‘yes’ to what feels good on a soul level. It’s about being able to recognize when the body is tense or relaxed around a man. (Click to read about what feminine energy truly is.)

So, a woman must not be afraid to set boundaries and say ‘no’ without having to explain herself. A woman who knows what she wants and what she doesn’t want is an attractive woman. This quality is usually appreciated by healthy, conscious men. If it’s a man with his own boundaries and self-respect, he will only admire a woman more when she is grounded and solid in her inner clarity.

♡Don’t Abandon Your Life for Love

When a woman has her own beautiful world, she can’t easily be impressed. When she has motion in her life, she doesn’t say ‘yes’ to the first man who brings some sort of excitement into her life. When a woman has an interesting life of her own, her standards rise.

So, do not pause your life for love. Do not let go of your rituals and routines that made you magnetic in the first place. No matter how magnificent a person you are dating, still make time for the loved ones in your life. Take your alone time to recharge. Take the time to ground yourself in your energy without allowing yourself to revolve everything around dating.

When a woman over-focuses on the man that she is dating, her energy stops being magnetic, and the man starts to sense it. She starts to lose the radiance that attracted the man in the first place. Therefore, a woman must always have her own interesting world going on. A world that feels good to her, that feels true to who she is. It doesn’t need to be extravagant at all, but just real and magical on her own terms.

Final Words

Dating is data collection. It’s about learning who you are and what your preferences truly are. Dating acts like a mirror, often reflecting your insecurities and fears. For a woman who is still developing inner security, it can feel like one of the hardest things she’ll ever do. But that’s exactly why it’s powerful.

Instead of taking rejection or incompatibility personally, treat dating as just what it is, which is collecting data. So what if a man doesn’t like you? That simply means he’s not your person.

This is why a woman must continually work on her self-concept and self-love as she moves through the modern dating world. She must take ownership of her actions and reactions, while nurturing a rich, grounded inner world, one where she is already deeply in love with life, regardless of who stays or goes.

Dating teaches a woman what she truly desires in a partner and what she absolutely doesn’t. Each experience is part of a sacred refinement process, one that brings her closer to recognizing her perfect match. The key is to enjoy it. Let dating be lighthearted, soulful, and fun, instead of weighing it down with pressure and expectations.

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