Boyfriend vs Husband Material: 5 Ways to Tell If He’s Your Future Husband.

As more women awaken to the sacredness of their energy, they’re realizing that access to their mind, body, and soul is not something to be given carelessly to just anyone. Women are realizing that their precious energy is something to be earned by a man who is truly worthy, aligned and pure in his intentions. 

This realization has created a desire in women to sharpen their discernment abilities. How can she tell if he is merely drawn to her radiant energy, only to leave once he is done experiencing it, or if he sees her energy as sacred, and desires to honour, protect, and build a life with her by his side?

How can a woman tell if a man is boyfriend material or husband material? The signs are abundant if you know how to look.

How to tell if he is your future husband.

♡ Chemistry vs Energetic Compatibility

When he is boyfriend material, he can come with a lot of chemistry. The excitement in your body for him will be high, and you might feel intense polarity. The experience with him will feel thrilling, emotionally high, and his presence will create an excitement in your nervous system. 

Just because a connection has intense chemistry, it doesn’t mean it’s a long-term, soul connection. Sometimes it’s just a short-term karmic connection that has to come into your life to leave you with much-needed wisdom. 

While this intensity can definitely be experienced with your future husband, there is more to a future husband than just chemistry that excites your nervous system. 

When he is husband material, his energy aligns so well with your energy system that his presence helps you regulate your nervous system. You feel safe with him. You feel open with him. Your body unlocks a kind of relaxation that you have never unlocked before when he is in your presence. 

There will be butterflies, but there will also be calmness. His energy will be compatible with your energy. There will be harmony that your body can sense on a cellular level.

♡ Awareness vs Action

A boyfriend can be good at communication. He can have self-awareness and emotional intelligence. He can also have the capacity to understand you and your feelings, but what makes him different from husband material is his inability to follow through. 

A boyfriend will listen and say the right things to make you feel better in the moment, but if he is not husband material, he will stop at words. 

When he is your future husband, he will listen and be willing to rise with you. While we are individually responsible for our emotions, a man who is husband material will emotionally support you and honour the union between the two of you. He knows that communication is nothing without follow-through, so every important conversation is matched by actions that deepen your bond and align with the vision you share.

♡ Lives in the Moment vs Builds with the Future in Mind

When he is boyfriend material, he will usually only care about the present. He might tell you that he desires to be with you forever, but there won’t be much action to support this desire. He might plan the most passionate, romantic dates, but he won’t take steps that reflect how serious he is about having you in his life for the long run. This can look like a lack of financial discipline, reluctance to introduce you to his inner circle, or a disinterest in having practical conversations about your future together.

When he is husband material, he will invest in you. He can be the busiest man on Earth, but he will make time for you because he is serious about having you in his life forever. He won’t leave you guessing. Instead, he will take real steps to build a foundation that supports a life with you by his side.

This can look like introducing you to his inner circle, involving you in his long-term plans, prioritizing emotional growth, discussing finances, spiritual values, or family goals. He will also start providing for you in ways that he can, investing time and money in you, and taking care of you because he plans on having you in his life forever.

It may not always be glamorous, but it will be real, reliable, and rooted in a vision you share together.

Boyfriend material vs Husband material

♡ Focused on Self vs Focused on the Partnership

When he is boyfriend material, he will always prioritize his needs, freedom and pleasure. Yes, we are all meant to prioritize what makes us happy, but if his highest excitement doesn’t include you, he is not husband material. 

When he is husband material, what is important to him somehow aligns with what is important to you, too. This doesn’t mean that he won’t have his own interests. He will do his own thing, nurture connections with his friends and focus on his purpose outside of you, but he will always be considerate of you and make space for you in his life.

When he is husband material, he will take you and the relationship you’re building together seriously. He will know how to compromise, and he will be open to ways that satisfy both of you, instead of focusing only on his needs.

♡ Intimidated by Depth vs Interested in Depth

When he is boyfriend material, he might not be much interested in who you are. He will desire you, but will not be interested in learning about the woman you are becoming every day. He will also try to avoid having difficult conversations, healing his shadows and deepening his commitment to you.

When he is husband material, he will not just desire you, but also love you. He will be interested in who you are and the woman you are becoming. Husband material wants to know your heart, your fears, and what sets your mind, body and soul on fire. 

He won’t be intimidated by your depth, wholeness and multidimensional nature. If you go through some relationship contrast or if your shadows and insecurities come up, he will become a rock you can rely on instead of running away. 

When he is husband material, he will have the capacity to hold your multifaceted, whimsical, complex energy, and he will choose you every single day.

Final Notes

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When he is husband material, he will be serious about you. He will be intentional with his actions and words. He will have the capacity to hold your multidimensional, fluid nature. When contrast comes up, it will feel like it’s you and him against the issue instead of him against you. 

When he is husband material, his energy will feel solid and safe. He will not be careless with the access he has to your energy. He will move with reverence and will not put you in a place where he could lose you. He will protect the connection and not test its limits. 

When he is husband material, his energy and yours will work together harmoniously. He will be gentle with your sensitivity and firm in his interest in you. His grounded, conscious presence will meet your ethereal, intuitive essence like earth meeting sky.

If you are on your sacred journey of calling in your husband, ‘Attract Divine Union’ will be the perfect guide for you to become refined in your energy as a future wife. How has this journey been for you so far? What do you love about it? What wisdom have you gathered so far? Let me know in the comments.